Notes and reflections from the Organizational Coaching with Mark Nicolson this past week at www.itp.edu. Mark is an amazing coach and through this weekend and past weekends coaching is coaching and spending time with Mark and the other coaches only expands my knowledge base and wisdom. And just so you are clear, organizational coaching extends beyond what one might imagine.
7 Ways People can Participate within an Organization
1. Being Affected
➢ Feelings in response to what is going on around you.
2. Notice How You are Affected
➢ Awareness of your feelings
3. Describe How You are Affected
4. Expressing how you are affected
5. Becoming aware of your imaginal structures
➢ Beliefs, ideas, lenses you have constructed from your personal biography
6. Which are Personal, Archetypal, Cultural from your personal biography
➢ What is relevant to present moment and to your lenses
7. Creative and Imaginative Action
➢ It is a surrender to….
➢ This is the place we aspire to within an Organization
Gandhi, in his process sifted out his personal, archetypal and cultural lenses and surrendered to a cause greater than himself. During and through the process he did not respond to his or form his reactivity to his triggers.
To what extent are people really able to participate, be, respond to their challenges within the organization?
It is simple, eliminate the internal dialogue of unrealistic thoughts/chatter & have the courage to take a chance thereby living the 7th way, surrendering to all the b.s. and trusting your intuition. Wear no masks, serve others and breakdown the walls.
➢ It is comforting to know as the coachee that you have a guide to lead you through the darkness. It brings out more courage knowing you have hands to help you when you need it most.
➢ Coaching guides and requires trust and intuition on part of the coach as to the appropriate response to any given situation.
➢ As a coach it is important to be aware of the space containing you & the Coachee
➢ As a coach it is important to be aware of the things around you & how to safely and with minimal interference guide.
➢ Coaching is more observational than hands on (telling the person, ‘this is how’)
➢ Further, there is a beauty to observing the person move freely within themselves and their space.
➢ It is far more empowering to find your own way than have someone tell you the answer and this is true as a coach.
➢ Your role as a coach is to allow the coachee to find their way, guiding and facilitating.
➢ Giving an answer to a question without allowing the person to inquire within themselves only holds them back and in many ways implies they do not know what is best for them and may make them feel ashamed.
How does Shame tame you?
How does the prospect of failing or being ashamed affect your choices?
➢ Communities need ACCOUNTABILITY otherwise shame lives, thus effectively eliminating expression.
➢ With ACCOUNTABILITY we can transcend shame to a more dignified humility and dignity.
➢ To further an early point, there is no need to tell people how to get out of the dark. This giving of advice shames people and tell them they do not know how to do it themselves.
➢ Shame has the affect of making people hide. The fear of failure makes us where masks. The fear of being judged makes us where masks.
➢ Forgiveness and Support are keys to people being willing to release their fears, remove their masks and explore their possibilities.
➢ Accountability reveals much about our truest and deepest nature.
➢ When People are enabled, supported, encouraged to get out of their darkness, their senses become available, their awareness capacity increases, their senses become alive, their senses come out of the darkness into the light leading to self discovery and self empowerment.
➢ By not telling our story of how to get out of the dark we are making the person accountable to themselves, us, and the community. This opens the door to overcoming shame and leads to dignity and humility.
➢ We all have our way, therefore encourage peoples sense of their own way.
➢ Step back, let it be, and allow.